Why you need to "put yourself out there"

Here’s something I’ve learned the hard way: what’s going on inside your head is useless… unless you share it with the world.

For years I kept my thoughts, ideas, and lessons bottled up. I had so much I wanted to say, but the idea of putting myself out there made me feel sick.

When I first started posting videos online, I hated it. I cringed every single time I hit “publish.” I hated the sound of my voice, hated how I looked, and half the time I wanted to delete everything five minutes later. I even blocked everyone I knew from my social accounts, so that they wouldn't be able to judge me.

But here’s the truth...if you don’t put yourself out there - no one can ever know who you are or what you stand for. And more importantly - the people who might need what you have to share will never find you.

It wasn’t easy, but I forced myself to keep showing up. I created a whatsapp group of men who all committed to keeping each other accountable in posting a video every day for 30 days, and little by little, it got easier.

I started to relax on camera. I started to notice that my message actually resonated with people. I started to build confidence - not because I waited to feel confident first, but because I acted despite the discomfort.

I'm now reaching a point where talking in front of groups feels much more  natural. Recording videos doesn’t fill me with dread. I still have a long way to go, but I’ve learned that growth only happens when you back yourself and take the leap.

Here’s the thing: not everyone will clap for you. Some people will criticise, mock, or try to stifle what you’re doing...but that’s fine.

Those people aren’t your people.

The ones who resonate with your authenticity, the ones who get you, who support you, who want to grow alongside you - they are the ones worth knowing. And you’ll never find them if you’re hiding.

So here’s my challenge to you: put yourself out there. Be 100% authentic. Share who you are with the world. Yes, it’s uncomfortable at first. Yes, it’s a learning curve. But it’s the only way to attract the people you’re meant to have around you, and the only way to create the life you actually want to live.